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The Trials of a Man at 27 – A must read for every Single

Childhood Fantasies

This episode is universal, it is not about me or the things life has permitted that I experience. Growing up as a young boy is difficult for everybody. You have to deal with parents, relate with siblings and overcome peer pressure. I have been a recipient of this too. The worst trauma comes when your parents are rigidly principled; you won’t have the freedom to make friends or even invite them over for a weekend fiesta. I remember being so bent at having my way at my teenage prime; I would consciously break rules just to exert self-worth. Relating with siblings is often the wonder spice; it is common to see boys who intentionally sneak out just to skip washing dishes, but resurface once meal is ready – if your sister is “mummy” enough, you’ll certainly return to meet a perfect home.

No matter how troublesome these species are, if the society tries to understand them a bit, they will better be helped. A teenage boy already feels he does not need the help of anyone any longer. He is bossy, proud, senseless and adventurous. For every instruction that has “don’t”, he must try it out to have the “don’t” experience. He already feels he has grown into a man. The dilemma at this stage is too provocative. The proud doll at this stage already has cliques he feel will help him better than his family does; this is the thought of every boy. Since he has not gained so much experience yet, he feels should anything happen, he will park up and meet Benson at Ewet Housing Estate – The lessons for every boy at the end of this episode will reveal more about this. This is how senseless boys could be. Keeping late nights is part of it all. He does not stick to rules any longer and can sleep under the bridge just to be sure the rule is broken; certainly, strict parents would always lock them out. The instinct for adventure in this breed can take them to Lagos before 17 years, when parents are somewhere in Uyo Itam. He is loved by friends for being funny and starts attracting girls who shower “love” and money on him. If they are not helped at this stage, they will lose it all. They will inflict damages on themselves that will play back sooner or later. The teenage boy is not strong, he is senseless.

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Iboro William during lock-down stretch

To the teenage boy, growing up with and always having peers around is his best moment; this is the experience we all have. But in early adulthood, we start feeling different. We start seeing people we think mean well for us and those we think are merely on seasonal companionship; this is where separation begins. As boys grow to the age of realization, so many things start changing; finances, career and relationships. Realization in finances doesn’t come easily.

Money and Investments

A young adult who has been on the forefront of receiving has a different financial awareness; he doesn’t bother about savings or investment. I will deal on a more universal realization; the war-torn adults who have had rough rides as teenagers. They know the world and its people are bound by the first law of nature – self-preservation. These breeds are plagued with the need to multiply money. Nature has placed so much demands on them that they have only one option – provide. Whether they bleed or are torn, nature has nurtured other breeds to depend on him. He receives pressure from all angles. Just to maintain his place as a dignified man, his finances must be “man enough”. At this stage, a good number of them are done with the University and are hoping that employment luck will come their way. Majority have been made to forget what they can offer. Because of the pressure, they must get a paid job no matter what it takes. They can’t start a company because it takes time to grow.

Also read: Formula 6: The recommended Extra Income Strategy you should know in 2020

He is now a transiting man. His teenage friends are now busy fending for themselves. This is the reality all boys will face. A time of conscious self-preservation comes. This is when you locate your fertile ground without assistance, prepare it and start planting. In order to survive, you must be both the gardener and the cop; after watering yourself, cut off every torn and spike that tries to inhibit your growth – this is the only formula. Self-preservation does not come through offences. I consciously stopped offending people when I came to this realization; if I ever discover I have broken this pledge, I live regretting for a very long time. The last restitution I made was to Ezekiel, a very good friend I met at the University which I still regret offending till date. You must not offend or be bitter with people you feel are not helping you; everyone one is busy fending for themselves and their families. This is how Mother Hen survives, learn from her.

To the growing man, his career and material growth pose another phase of trauma. He is consciously fighting against lack without unplugging the drainpipes planted by family and friends. He has been taught to be strong even when his strength fails. When he is battered and bruised by the spikes of “hustling”, he runs to Religion with the belief that he is “returning to God” for help. Because of bad orientation and ignorance, he is not aware of the many changes his strength can bring to the world. The green suit man wallows in lack and finds comfort in poverty. This awareness now brands him “Ambassador of the Meek”. He has no option than to stick to a N25,000 job with hard labour and disrespect. This is how poor men are birthed.

Choosing a mate

But for love, the green suit man would have been managing his limitations, but he gets trapped again when his finances would have helped him accumulate N100,000 in a year. His background has taught him patience, and his experiences have forged him with resilience. Aunty Susu has come his way and the will of God must be done. Thank God he has self-control, so he won’t face the beast of double-dating. He has to make another important decision. This is where he is lost again. If he is not given to lack, he falls into the hand of an evil woman. Some are so unlucky to face both.

Also read: When to start start dating

Life’s weights and societal pressures torment a man as much as it does a woman. If it is not coping with forced parental influence or savings and investment, an iron monkey wife can enslave him in thoughts that may end up destroying him.

How to secure your Facebook Account from hackers

Yesterday, I received an email from one of my Blog followers with the subject – how to secure my facebook account. Before I move into the narratives, here is a little thing you should know about the internet. As at early 2020, there were 4.5 billion reported Internet Users world-wide as against 3.9 billion in 2018. This rapid increase in users’ database draws all to so many concerns; Online Safety is one of those.

Late 2018, Solomon Brown’s Facebook account was hacked and retained by the hackers for malicious advertisements. Solomon is a Forex Analyst and has some top guys on his list. This major hack almost marred his business and prestige.

Just this year, Akachi Chukwuma and Idongesit Akpan reported their Facebook Accounts as hacked. The relative feature in this hack spree is that all hacked accounts are retained by the hackers for malicious advertisements.

Getting more than 98% solid security on your Facebook account is possible if you follow my recommendations to the last line. But before I proceed, let me take time to explain how Facebook Account hacks are accomplished.

Phishing

This is a scam method in which a user is tricked to provide personal details with which the scammer can use for exploitative purposes. In the case of Facebook, hackers clone the log-in page of Facebook, host the script in a server and trick users to visit the page through malicious links. Most commonly, the hacker might send you a link claiming that it leads to a viral video or any interesting content on Facebook. Once you click the link, you’ll end up seeing a login page with the message “log-in to proceed”. If you make the mistake of supplying your login details, the hacker will receive your username and password in a text file on his server, then use it to seize your account. This is the most popular method hackers use.

How to protect yourself from Phishing

a) Don’t click on links you do not trust.
b) Always check the URL of the website you are visiting on your browser to be sure you’re not on a totally different site. For example, hackers might trick you to log-in at www.facebo0k.com, www.facebbok.com, www.faceb00k.com, www.facebookk.com etcetera instead of www.facebook.com. Be watchful.
c) Activate Two Factor Authentication: When you turn on 2F Authentication on your Facebook Account, a special security code will be required from you each time you want to login to your Account from a strange device. This security code is always sent to your registered phone number or generated with an Authentication App such as Google Authenticator during the log-in process.

How to activate two factor authentication on Facebook

These steps cover “Faccebook” and “Lite” for Android. There might be slight differences when implemented on Web.
a) Open your Facebook App.

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Navigate to Settings

b) Navigate to Settings>Security and Login>Use two-factor authentication

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Goto Security and Login

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c) Click “Enable” for SMS Authentication. A code will be sent to the phone number tied to your account.

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You’re required to supply this code before your settings can be saved. Once this is successful, you’ll receive a security code on that line each time you try to login from a strange device. Without this code, you can not login to the account.

Optional:

d) Activate for Authentication App. Once you click enable, a QR Code and Security token will appear on the screen, copy this security token and proceed to your Google Authenticator.

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e) Click the red plus (+) sign at the bottom right of the screen.

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f) Click “Enter a provided key”.
g) Paste the security token in the “Your key” field.

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h) Supply the account name (Anything to help you identify the account).
i) Set the code type to “Time based” then click “Add”.
j) Copy the code that will appear on the screen and paste in the space provided in the Facebook App to complete the setup.

Though 2FA doesn’t promise 100% Account Security because of available security loophole which I won’t mention here, it can offer up to 80% Account Security. The security loophole is only known by top tech guys who might not actually have interest in hacking your account.

Also read: How to Receive Money from any Country of the World for free

Malicious Password Reset

This is a situation where hackers who have access to your email account reset your facebook password using the security token sent to your email. In this process, Facebook will think you are the one requesting for password reset. Once the hacker is successful in resting your password, he’ll probably replace all the contact information in your account so you won’t have the privilege to revert the action.

Other Protective Measures on Facebook

a) Add trusted contacts: Facebook gives you the privilege to select up to 5 people who can help your regain access to your account if anything should happen.

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For example, should you lose access to your email and unable to reset your password, Facebook may send recovery codes to your trusted contacts with which you can use to recover your account.

b) Review your authorised logins: Authorised devices are those which Facebook belief belong to you. You should review this to remove devices you no longer use.

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If you’ve ever used a public computer to access your Facebook account, you should review this setting, tick the devices you wish to remove, then proceed to secure your account.

How to protect yourself from Malicious Password Reset

a) There is no love in sharing passwords. Keep your email account password secret and confidential.
b) Activate 2FA for your email account too.
c) Do not add someone you do not trust as a trusted contact.

The most important step you have to take in protecting your Facebook account is to activate 2FA for the email account that is linked to Facebook. The processes of activating 2FA on many platforms are similar, but there might be cross-platform similarities; common sense should guide you through the setup.

Dangers of having your Facebook Account Hacked

If you feel that Facebook account opening process takes less than a minute, and you can always open new accounts if hacked, let me highlight some of the dangers of having a hacked Facebook account here:

a) You’ll lose all your resources (Pictures, Videos and Articles).
b) You’ll lose connection with all your friends. There are people who might never accept your friend request again when they start seeing you in two spots on Facebook.
c) You’ll lose important business connections and deals. Most contractors do not need an unserious person who can’t “even protect a Facebook account”.
d) Your prestige might be soiled. If hackers use your account to beg your friends for money or dupe people on your contact list, people will think you’re the one doing so.
e) Hackers may upload pornographic contents using your Facebook account. If this doesn’t get to your Mom or Wife, it will get to your pastor.
f) Hackers cam steal confidential information from your previous chats such as your debit card details, shopping security tokens, bvn, date of birth, shopping history, websites you visit and other background information about you. Remember that Facebook doesn’t delete old messages, and your shopping and website check-ins are all stored in your Facebook account.

You should endeavour to keep yourself safe online; 2FA is the most important tool you should use.


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